女人面對(duì)丈夫外遇怎么辦?

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# k! V, ^' D& K. s9 T: h! p<DIV id=mainNewsContent class="mainNewsContent NewsContent"><TR><TD style="PADDING-TOP: 10px" class=td_24 width="660">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 臺(tái)灣女作家施寄青是一位放飛了自己丈夫的奇女子。在遭遇了婚姻變故后，她獲得了這樣的認(rèn)識(shí)：丈夫有外遇而離開(kāi)家庭，好比下雨天有人偷走了你的傘。這時(shí)，女性是順手再拿別人一把傘，還是隨便另買(mǎi)一把？施寄青的答案是：“有時(shí)，我們也可以淋雨?！?
<P><FONT face=Arial>　　外遇，一直是女性在婚姻中深為恐懼的瘟疫。它能觸及人性底層最恐懼、最容易引發(fā)痛苦的“背叛”情結(jié)，給當(dāng)事人帶來(lái)難以平復(fù)的巨大心理創(chuàng)傷。大多數(shù)女性在外遇面前，會(huì)脆弱得不堪一擊。家住加拿大英屬哥倫比亞省的安妮·伯特一直認(rèn)為，自己有一段完美的婚姻。直到有一天，丈夫布萊恩·伯特主動(dòng)承認(rèn)，自己有了外遇?！奥?tīng)到這個(gè)消息時(shí)，我整個(gè)人都驚呆了?！?1月4日，安妮在接受美國(guó)?？怂闺娨暸_(tái)采訪(fǎng)時(shí)回憶道，“我開(kāi)始和不同的人交流，了解他們對(duì)婚姻的看法，面對(duì)背叛時(shí)的態(tài)度，試圖找到一些合理的解決方法。最后，我挽救了自己的婚姻?！?1月的第一周，安妮和丈夫慶祝了兩人結(jié)婚26周年紀(jì)念日，同時(shí)，兩人聯(lián)名撰寫(xiě)的《丈夫的外遇是我遇到的最重要之事》一書(shū)，也登上了各大暢銷(xiāo)書(shū)排行榜。</FONT></P>
1 ^# D7 G" |0 l/ Z<P><FONT face=Arial>　　美國(guó)心理學(xué)家馬塞拉·巴克表示，很多人面對(duì)外遇時(shí)，第一個(gè)念頭就是細(xì)數(shù)自己受到的傷害，而不是判斷是否能挽救婚姻、積極想辦法來(lái)重建信賴(lài)感，逃避是于事無(wú)補(bǔ)的?！叭绻X(jué)得還深?lèi)?ài)對(duì)方，那就要學(xué)會(huì)處理懷疑感?！?lt;/FONT></P>
) s" a' j9 q, `& m$ x( B( a<P><FONT face=Arial>　　安妮說(shuō)：“獲知噩耗的3個(gè)月內(nèi)，夫妻雙方都不要做任何重大的決定。而是盡量讓生活保持原有的規(guī)律，照常上班、參加社會(huì)活動(dòng)、和老朋友聚會(huì)，這樣有助于從理性的角度去反省背叛?！睂?duì)伯特夫婦而言，開(kāi)始改正自己的錯(cuò)誤并學(xué)會(huì)接受對(duì)方，這一點(diǎn)非常有效?！叭藷o(wú)完人。任何一對(duì)夫妻都要先檢討自己。以前，我們傾向于責(zé)備對(duì)方，其實(shí)自身也有很多問(wèn)題?，F(xiàn)在，我們不再要求對(duì)方盡善盡美，維持彼此依賴(lài)的關(guān)系也就不再是件難事?！?lt;/FONT></P>
# t, [7 z) Q/ M4 l. f<P><FONT face=Arial>　　據(jù)了解，為了幫助更多面對(duì)婚姻危機(jī)的人，安妮還開(kāi)辦了非營(yíng)利性網(wǎng)站“超越外遇”，專(zhuān)為夫妻提供有效的建議。 </FONT></P><A href="http://www.souod.com/"><FONT color=#810081>&lt;搜得健康網(wǎng),專(zhuān)業(yè)健康知識(shí)分享,為你健康保駕護(hù)航&gt;</FONT></A>
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